Using Visualization To Find The Love Of Your Life

by Lucas Castillo

November 24th, 2018

Call me crazy.

Call me whatever you want but don’t fuck with my idea of Love.

Every single one of us was born with this amazing ability to use our imagination to create the life that we want for ourselves. We can use it however we wish to.

For whatever reason we are told to forget your imagination. We are told to stop using it.

This is the most crippling thing that can happen to a person.

Visualization is our best learning tool in career, finances, and yes, even our love life.

When we visualize the kind of person that we want to be with, often times we actually get exactly what we want. We get what we deserve too, and sometimes it's a really hard lesson learned.

How ever, usually the person we are looking for is right in front of us. Yet, we continue to look the other way.

We have an issue with outside influence.

I have a wake up call for you and your love life.

Your outside influences are destroying your chances to find the kind of love that you are so longing for.

I’m going to use social media as I see being the strongest example. You won’t be able to say I am wrong, because we are all guilty of doing it. That is unless, you no longer let the power of influence affect you.

I struggle every day, still.

Social media applications like Facebook, Instagram and yes, even Twitter can influence your love life decision making.

How?

We have created this insane subconscious idea in our brains that ‘if this person doesn’t work out, I know there will be another one’ and without realizing, you’ve given yourself more options. You really don’t realize what you’ve done.

I really do believe that we look at all of these other faces on Facebook or we follow people on Instagram that we don’t even know and we hold onto this hope of 'maybe I can fall in love with that person someday.'

Don't lie to yourself and say that you don’t do this. This is the most common form of visualization when it comes to dating and love these days.

People are failing in their relationships because they keep looking at other people on social media platforms as another option. Just so you know, this keeps a door open. Doing this keeps that visual alive in your imagination and that is the reason why you may never be fully ‘satisfied’ in your relationships.

I often wondered why some women wouldn’t follow me back on Instagram. But I never asked myself why I wouldn’t follow back some of the women that were following me. Have you ever just wondered why this happens? Why you do this?

Once I did accept how my visuals on dating has been, I began unfollowing and unfriending people that simply were not serving me and my own personal ideas and beliefs.

This was quite beneficial.

I ended up removing a lot of negative things that kept coming across my phone screen even. I began to see a lot more beauty and things that actually matter more to me.

Now granted, ridding f your social media entirely is ideal and a mentally helpful idea, but I have to admit that this is the millennial era. We grew up on the internet. So it's hard to get away. Taking a break some times is always a good idea.

I just believe that if you truly feel that you've already found love, you need to go to it. If you see yourself with someone that you strongly visualize about, if you are imagining it a certain way, go give it a try.

When you start doing this, you will begin to develop skills that will teach you how to love yourself.

You may very well go through some tough rejections but it’s not meant to be taken personal.

Every time you meet someone new, you have to remember that they too have an imagination of their own. That is why it is so important to remember the things that you believe in most. The ideas you created, The person that you believe exists that is out there somewhere. So that way you don't end up with the wrong person.

I believe that you can create whatever you want as long as you are putting yourself first.

This ideology is truly fucking wack but if you think about it for a just a moment, haven’t you already been doing this? Haven't you maybe done this before? Think back to your past relationships. I bet you have.

It’s almost like you get what you asked for, yet, you lose it because you still had a lesson to learn. When we lose, it's because we don’t humble ourselves enough and we often judge too quickly.

Personally, I feel like most women avoid me because they think they see a selfish bodybuilder that only loves himself and probably cheats on women. I'm okay with that. It keeps a lot of nasty people out of my life. I do love myself. I do care about my health and well being. The woman I am imagining will allow herself to love freely and take that chance to see that I am everything that she is imagining for herself.

The second thing that I believe is the strongest influence of all is simple. It's your closest friends and family. Without a doubt.

But no, family and friends look out for you, right?

No. Fucking false. Yes in many cases, but when it is tampering with your imagination, no.

It is no different than someone that is reaching for a high level of success in their career but their family and friends aren’t even buying into it. They don't support you. They are not allowing you to see out what you are imagining.

How is true success born?

You fight through the fire alone typically.

Any major artists, actors, musicians, technicians, inventors, idealists, entrepreneusr, etc will tell you the same thing. People like Will Smith, Jim Carry, Keanu Reeves – some of the idols I look up to – preach the same ideology.

I firmly believe that when you are ready to settle down with your dream partner, you won’t let anything get between you and that person.

When two people meet, the rest of the outcome should only be between each other. Not anyone else. The moment you speak the hardships between you and your partner to friends and family, their ideas begin to literally fuck with yours and then things tend to spiral out of control. Do they not?

Yes, we need to be able to talk about our emotional hardships. But to be quite honest, if someone isn’t making you happy and you feel the need to tell every else about it, shouldn’t that be telling you something?

Maybe that person isn’t it. But also maybe, you already let too much outside influence affect your own ideas of the relationship.Those new visuals are making you and your partner suffer.

So don’t lower your standards. Your standards are actually your own ideas. Don’t let someone come in and try to change them because that will destroy your chances of meeting the one person you’ve been waiting for your whole life.

I know what I want. Do you?

Never settle.

The kind of person you want is right around the corner. You just have to believe that you are ready for it, because if you're not, they will never reveal themselves.

Happy dating.

Also, fuck Tinder.

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