If you are going to punch, now is the time to do it.

by Lucas Castillo

January 6th, 2019

Dating is, well, it’s fucking wild these day. We are all on the edge of our seats just hoping the love of our lives will just show up and magically make everything ‘better.’

What kind of ‘better’ are we looking for though?

I’m not even going to lie. I just woke up from having this dream. This dream from - the title of this blog - was the last thing I heard before I woke this morning.

It was odd but immediately I interpreted this dream in my own fashion and so now I wish to share it with you.

When you’re biting your nails - overthinking or longing for a situation to happen- like having the love of your life to just magically ‘show up' or whatever you are visualizing, it most likely means something. This really is an important moment in your life.

It could mean you actually are ready to take the next step in partnership. You are ready to receive the love you have always been looking for.

It could also mean that you have a lesson coming your way. That is, if you are not being completely honest with yourself - that lesson may not give you the results you have been longing for, and will most likely end in a self-sabotaging experience.

The big truth is that when you are actually manifesting the situation of love, you are capable of choosing either path for yourself. It all just depends on how you plan to receive the love you have been designing with your heart.

Though, if you are you not ready to be committed to someone, don't waste someone else's time.

I wish I could say I was joking about this dream. It was wild. Kurt Russel & Goldie Hawn were the main characters of this short lived dream.

It was like I was playing Kurt, and Goldie was my partner. Oddly, I don’t know why these were the two people in my dream.

As a romantic comedy buff, (this now is now no longer a secret) I’ve always been fascinated with the inspiration that comes from most love stories. I’m quite the romantic type. I prefer a fairytale kind of love story of my own when I am seeking a partner.

Anyways, if you’ve seen “Overboard” a 1987 film with both Kurt and Goldie - for me was quite the enjoyable romantic comedy - had to be on of the best romance films of it’s time, and still very much a great film to this day. Overboard is definitely one of my favorite love stories. If you haven’t seen it, ten out of ten would recommend.

So as I am seemingly Kurt Russel in this dream, I appear poolside, wearing what seemed to be training gear. It looked like I was in the military for sure. I was about to perform some kind of training exercise with my team.

Before we got a chance to begin, I hear a loud door that's been thrown open. Someone was making a really big entrance - interrupting my training.

It was Goldie.

In this dream, I saw her as the girl of my dreams.

She strutted her way onto the pool deck, not giving a single damn who’d might try and stop her from getting to me just to have a word - like she does in most of her movies - which I find fascinating. With no regards, she goes after what she wants.

I remember feeling in awe. Like okay, 'my woman is here.' But also like, 'oh man, I’m in trouble.'

My team behind me was oooh-ing, whistling and teasing as Goldie was walking towards us. Our instructor, or commander, caught wind of her entrance as well. So I knew I was about to be in trouble. This really felt like a scene from a movie.

I began to walk to meet Goldie at least halfway to see why she would show up in the middle of what felt to be an important training period.

Our chief, the trainer met us in the middle as well.

Now my dreams are weird. As a lucid dreamer, at least in this dream, I was consistently switching from first to third person views. I watched Kurt, Goldie and the chief meet in the middle to see what Goldie had come for.

Kurt says "What on earth are you doing here?"

Goldie replied with “I needed to see you. I’m not here to interrupt your training. I am here to root for you!”

“Well you are interrupting, can’t you see?” said Kurt.

The instructor stepped in immediately.

He says, “Hold on hold on, just wait a second."

"If you two really love each other - *turns to Goldie and continues* - if you are going to punch, now is the time to do it."

Then I woke up.

I woke up and was like ‘well what the fuck did that mean?’

Here is the thing.

The woman I’m looking for really could just show up anytime. She could show up unannounced, or make a really big impression with her entrance when she decides to present herself - a complete blindside. It will probably happen when I am busy, or when I am least expecting it. It typically happens this way for all of us - when we aren't looking for it.

My life doesn’t slow down for anyone anymore these days. I've placed things into different gears. Personally, if you can’t keep up with me, if you slow down the things I am focused on and especially do not fuel and encourage my dreams, you won’t last very long, at all.

I’ve walked away or ended things so fast because this mother fucker right here doesn’t pump the brakes for any one, anymore. I have too many things I want to accomplish.

I used to let girls interrupt my training, all the time. I would put training aside to party, or become lazy and stay at home for too long. Ultimately it pulled me away from things I loved more than anything.

Like bodybuilding for example.

My dumbass has continued to date women that didn't value health in the ways that I did. I dated girls that pulled me away from the gym. would party or go out too often with girls that just didn't support the goals I had in pursuit of being a bodybuilder. While that was my own fault, I am still just a sucker for love.

So in the dream, when Goldie showed up, she was interrupting the training session.

Goldie said she showed up to be with Kurt and to give the kind of support I think we are all longing for.

The instructor then said “if you are going to punch, now is the time to do it."

If I am to translate what he meant by 'punch' I would say that two people need to 'roll with the punches' when they find each other.

If someone is going to claim they love you and that they will stick by your side no matter what, but also will not let you get distracted from the things that you are working on - you too must do the same in return.

Does this make sense?

Dating is not just about a measure of love and commitment to one another in the very beginning, because those two things are what's developed over time when you DECIDE to RECEIVE love.

It’s about discovering a balance that exists between two people where each person can still work on themselves as they continue to chase down the dreams that THEY discovered before or even after they met each other.

It’s about being able to work together without compromising the little things and activities that fuel your aspirations to reach wherever it is you are trying to get to in life.

Me personally, I have a huge, just a huge fucking list of goals I want to see through. I cannot let just anyone stop me or distract me anymore. I can’t. I won’t.

So of course, I am now more single than I have ever been in my life. Im still manifesting the kind of person I want as a life-partner. She will reveal herself some day, one day. I don't believe I will ever just settle, ever again.

So here is the big eye-fucking-opener for those of you that are out there dating or day dreaming about the kind of person you want:

If you cut off your dreams

If you stop working on you

If you let someone slow you down

If you let someone interrupt your mission

If you compromise yourself...

You are setting yourself up for failure.

I wouldn't care how great you think that other person is.

Anyone that distracts you from ‘Plan A’ and forces you to create a Plan B, is a failure. Plan B is only just a bullshit remodel of Plan A.

Stick to Plan A. Plan A is where you are beyond lifted in your own reality. It’s where your vision and your sight is far more eagle-like, where you feel unstoppable.

Why would you want to walk away from Plan A anyways?

Find someone that will fuel your aspirations for Plan A.

Find someone that doesn’t laugh in your face when you present your own ideas.

Find someone that encourages you and fuels your dreams, no matter how ridiculous the dream may sound.

Find someone that patiently waits to see you because they too are out there training for their dreams.

Your love story can be written any way you wish it to be. It doesn’t have to suck.

You are in control.

Be patient. That person you are longing for is out there.

My Goldie is out there some where. I'll fucking wait as long as I have to.

You just better make sure that the person you want is too within the same mindset as yours. If you find that person, the sky won’t really feel like it has limits.

Also, don't be afraid to try a new color. Interracial dating is fucking cool. Fuck what anyone else thinks.

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