LOVE Is A Super Power - Suicide Awareness

by Lucas Castillo

November 16th, 2018

I want to uncover a super power that we all seriously forget we have.

My heart goes out to those that have experienced losing a loved one to suicide. I send many blessings your way as you read this blog.

I believe we all need to be much more aware of those around us.

Yesterday I received horrible news.

I learned that we lost another friend.

This was a friend that I haven't seen in several years. I can only remember the hand full of times we had.

Most of the memories I have with this person was shared with several other people in a room or in a house. We would play drinking games and yell and laugh together.

I will always remember those epic long nights.

I am here to express how awful this feeling is for myself and a lot of other people in the surrounding communities.

We all know that we are losing friends more and more every day.

It even feels like it’s getting closer and closer to home and yet, no one is doing anything about it.

At least that’s the way I see it.

I am finding it hard to trust more and more people as I grow older.

Why is that?

Is it because we were told we would end up this way? I know I have heard it before. I don’t like that idea.

I hate that idea.

I want to trust more. I want to let more people in. I want to judge less. We are not supposed to go through life alone.

Those affected by this loss of a good friend, a family member, I encourage you to run to someone you love right now.

I want you to squeeze them. Squeeze them hard and don’t let go until you want to.

Tell them you love them. Tell them that you missed them. Even if it was only seconds ago that you just saw them.

Be overwhelmed with that feeling and hold onto it. I want you to wield this super power.

What we don’t realize is how powerful this kind of influence can really be. Love is the most powerful tool we as human beings are capable of wielding. With it, we can really change someone’s life when we use it.

I think you know what I mean.

We also have a very evil power that usually goes unnoticed.

We are guilty of doing it every day.

We tend to hate in the worst of forms. I will share from personal experience.

Personally, I have stared at death multiple times.

It was never really about wanting to die. It was more about just wanting to end the pain that I was feeling.

I have felt so lonely at times where I really believed that no one actually gave a fuck about me. That or I felt like no one really understood what I was going through.

I can’t tell you how many times I have had to pull myself out of that feeling. I can’t tell you how many times I have had to crawl out of it on my own.

I can tell you that when I have been that low, it was really because no one really was paying attention.

I have felt like I was being compared.

I felt like my morals weren’t enough.

Hell, my friends were even shitting on my dreams – the creative and innovative ideas that I came up with all on my own – that sucks.

Here is one extreme example.

One of my biggest dreams is to be a father. I want to be the best Dad in the world. To have my own family is something I have chased over and over again.

It seems like everyone I date or pursue, someone has something to say about it. Someone always has to find something negative to say about that person.

This is negative influence. This causes doubt. Sound familiar?

Other examples are the business dreams or ideas I came up with.

I started wrapping crystals with copper wires and I wanted to sell them as pendants for people to wear around their necks. I was making jewelry.

Yet, my best friends and even close relatives still thought that this idea wasn’t good enough. Strangers and people that I thought were close friends wanted them for free. What the fuck?

So since that business idea seemingly ‘failed’ it ended up just becoming another hobby.

So now I wrap crystals and gift them to those I care for because I solely believe in their ‘healing’ properties.

Failed ideas do of course go back to the desire for the instant gratification that we all have developed growing up as a millennial. Not being instantly satisfied, and of course not getting ‘approval’ from your closest loved ones will bring doubt.

Feeling these kind of doubts can lead to a very dark spiral downwards. And it can happen rather quickly. A simple bad or negative thought will manifest itself without you realizing it.

I am not the only one that has felt this way. I have to assume that everyone has experienced this feeling. If you say you have not, you are lying to yourself.

I personally have been a horrible friend to many but I have also been a good friend to several. I believe we all have good and bad moments. There is no such thing as a perfect person. We have our good years, and our bad years.

But we do have a choice.

The choice I hope you choose is the one that supports your neighbor. I hope you choose to support your friends. I hope you choose to support your family.

I believe you can start becoming your own version of a super hero.

This is how you can start saving lives.

You listen.

You pay attention.

You knock down the distractions when you are sharing a conversation.

This really does mean that you have to put your phone away when you are in a room full of others. It really does mean that its time to join the rest of the room when you actually have that free time that you say you don’t.

I’m just saying that phone apps really should not be more important than your friends and family.

You can’t hug a loved one through the phone.

You can’t feel that warming sensation of love through a phone screen. You can’t.

I don’t care what you say. There isn’t a single text message that exists that will express how powerful feelings are.

Text messages, phone calls are bullshit. You show up for someone you love. Period.

Physically being there for someone that needs love or even just direction is how we begin to save lives.

The one’s who struggle most are typically the ones who want help the least. They can also be individuals that can’t take on any more than they already are. We all get overwhelmed. And when we do, we tend to shut out the rest of the world and try to fight our demons alone.

It shouldn’t be this way.

We grew up in a world with significantly less distractions. I’m not directing the root of the problem at technology, but technology has limited our ability to feel each other on an emotional level.

You can also start forgiving yourself for things you are still holding onto.

A great exercise is going back to those you hurt and asking them to forgive you. This is a hard road, but you will be free from that weight. Your mind will be free from the guilt and this too will also help you find your way out of your own darkness.

Chances are, you won't be forgiven for all of the things. It's hard to let go. We all have a hard time letting things go. But working on this will humble you. I promise.

If you find yourself involved with people that are not supporting your dreams or your best interests at heart, you need to find new friends. This is not easy, but there are some really good people out there. You will find them once you start doing things that serve you best.

So please pay attention. Please open your eyes.

We have no idea what anyone is going through. We have no idea what kind of thoughts are going through each others minds.

Love is the answer. Love will overcome any person’s obstacle's.

That warm fuzzy feeling you get when you are surrounded by people that share the same compassion for others will double, or even triple in size.

That is one promise that I know is true.

Find someone you love today and invest yourself. We can’t live alone. We can’t find our way out of the darkness alone.

Spread your love because if you don’t, you could lose anyone you love before you get the chance to say goodbye.

Be kind to yourself. Don't let worry get too far ahead because empathy is real.

Believing you can change a persons life and gently steer them into a positive direction with love because LOVE IS THE ULTIMATE SUPER POWER.

The power of positivity goes much further than you believe.

Start believing in love again. Please.

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